Need Your Opinion

So...I have a question for ya.

Do you think I am trying to be controlling? In July (don't remember the exact time frame but around there), I decided that I would have my son, Jackson's, first birthday party on Dec. 5th.

I decided on this date because I am due to have Baby #2 on November 20th, and I wanted to make sure that his birthday celebration wasn't canceled because I was in the hospital.

In July, I let my sister and father in law know of the specific date so they would be able to be there. My sister lives in Colorado (a couple states away), and my father in law often goes hunting over the weekends in November/December.

My father told me yesterday that I was trying to control other peoples schedules by having his birthday party about 20 days after his actual birthday party. Do you agree or disagree?

My family and I have had some difficult times dealing with my sister. My sister, Jessica, and I do not get a long. We tolerate each other, but we try to communicate as little as possible. It is kind of a long story, but we have been dealing with this for years. The "peak" of dislike (I don't really dislike her, but I am struggling for an appropriate word) was in Jan. 2008....and it has really been downhill since then. I feel that my parents shelter her because of some of the choices that she has made in the past, and try their best to not upset her.

Anyway, maybe I will explain more of my sorted family past in the future.....but, do you think that I am trying to be controlling? I would appreciate any and all advice ;o)

The Toughest Job in the World

Attention all men!

Haha....how come most men (I don't want to say all....but, definitely most) don't view the life as a stay at home Mom a job? I am not saying that my husband doesn't appreciate all the work that I do, however, why do I have to listen to his day at work when he doesn't like to listen to mine?

He will typically spend 20-30 minutes telling me all the details of his day, and I try to be interested (although, it is normally pretty boring....haha). He, however, openly refuses to listen to my day. Now, it is not all the time...but, there are some times that it really bothers me because I don't have any adult conversation throughout the day. This is my only time to act as an adult....and the time when I can say, "I am going to the restroom" instead of "Mommy has to go potty", haha.

How do you handle this situation? Would your husband survive a day in your shoes?

Ugh...

*Warning* A great deal of venting is going on in this post, I apologize if it offends anyone….as it is just my intention to get it off my chest.

Everyone’s MIL annoys them, right? Well, mine, in particular, is totally a pain in my ass.

There are several instances in the past couple of years that just really get on my nervous, but today struck a particular cord.

We had just spent 5 hours in the car driving down to spend time with her side of the family…..it was her Grandmother’s 95^th birthday. Which, I totally agree, is a big deal. However, shortly after finishing our lunch, at some small town restaurant, my son (Jackson) REALLY needed a nap…all he would do is whine. So, I suggested to my husband that Jack and I should be heading back to the house for his afternoon nap. He agreed that was the best idea, especially if we wanted him to be at all social for the dinner that we had coming up this evening.

So, we came up to my MIL and let her know that we would be leaving in order to put Jackson down for a nap….and she was extremely bitchy about it. Again, I understand that we are cutting our time a little short during our lunch time…but isn’t the purpose of this trip to spend the most time with family as possible in the short time frame that we have?

If Jackson didn’t have a nap, he would have been a complete bear all evening…so, this was definitely the best option. I mean, is it so wrong that my child is on a schedule? Is it also wrong that he doesn’t like to be held to sleep, but would rather fall asleep on his own?

How do you deal with your family? Specifically your MIL? Do you get along? Do you have any tips for me? Any advice would be greatly appreciated!

Oh, and I also apologize for my language…I generally only swear when I really fired up about something. So, again this is not a normal blog post….but, just a tool I am using to get something off my chest.